Maybe its years of being told “a young lady sits with her legs closed while wearing a dress”
or maybe its years of being told that if she dresses or behaves a certain way she wouldn’t have to worry about being raped.
A young girl shouldn’t have to worry about to etiquette in this day and age. She shouldn’t have to be told that the spaghetti straps of her shirt are too thin and her shorts/skirt is too short and it is too distracting for men.
Because men should be told how to act. A man should be taught that a woman is much more than her body. She should be not objectified. If a man is noble and was raised with integrity, a high degree of morality and common sense he would treat a woman with honor and respect. Protect her when she needs to be and respect a woman’s right to say no.
A mother should be able to watch her daughter enjoy her childhood and not have the fear that creeps up the back her neck. Simply because her daughter is wearing a sundress.
-My thoughts because I felt so guilty telling my niece she should sit with her legs crossed in her dress. “But I am uncomfortable, auntie” she kept telling me.
“You are not wearing shorts underneath. If you were wearing shorts it would be ok” I snapped.
We were in the park, and a number of men roaming amount especially drunk ones put me on edge. When I heard those words coming out of my mouth, I almost wanted to cry.
What kind of message was I sending to her. That she should be ashamed to be a young girl? I was being a hypocrite. It was damn shameful.